In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, I'd like to focus on domestic violence issues this month.
by Tanya T. Warrington
I wasn't afraid,
He couldn't make me cry,
I'd never let him make me cry;
I was a survivor.
I didn't feel fear,
I felt okay and fine,
Other feelings were gone
Or strangely muted.
I was dead really,
Numb and removed,
Hiding myself from the trauma,
Forgetting whatever I could.
A brittle branch
Weighed down by heavy snow
Bending, always bending,
Waiting for the day I'd snap.
Little did I know that the snap
would not be the end of me,
but rather a tough re-birth
that would free me from Fear's grip
I was terrified it turns out;
believing his evil threats,
and cowed by his displays of violence,
until I separated myself and the children.
I just didn't know it with my mind,
But with distance could see my lifestyle of fearfulness--
Fear had been my master for fourteen long years.
All my tiptoeing over invisible shattered glass,
Trying to please him above all else,
Doing almost anything to try to advert his "anger problem"
Had been a sign of my bondage to cruel Fear.
I want to shout from the rooftops now,
To all who still serve Fear as they try to appease
An irrate partner who will not be pleased
No matter what they do to serve.
This lifestyle isn't marriage--it is bondage;
it isn't the way its supposed to be.
No one is perfect; it is true.
But there are many who would never, not once,
Threaten to harm you or intentionally wound you.
Most spouses want to love and be loved
with someone they cherish and adore;
Not someone they set out to dismantle and degrade.
Love has four letters but it is freeing, not condemning;
It builds up both partners over time,
amazing each with the growth they see
in themselves and in their beloved.
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